Becoming pregnant & being pregnant

Anyone who has ever been pregnant before or is pregnant right now can relate when I say that pregnancy definitely has it's ups and downs and although its one of the most beautiful things that changes a woman's life for the better it can also be one of the toughest and most devastating times of her life as well.

I just had my first child at the age of 21 turning 22 and I wouldn't change my experience for the world. I had a horrible pregnancy health wise and as far as the stress and abuse that her father put me through however monthly ultrasounds and tiny movements from my daughter were well worth it. Being pregnant was a joy for me I loved the kicks and movement and memories that I made while pregnant such as having a gender reveal dinner, taking maternity pictures, and having a baby shower for all my family and friends to come to. As I said before I wouldn't trade her for the world and even though I had a horrible pregnancy I all around enjoyed it.

....But the moment I found out that I was pregnant I felt as if my world had ended and that nobody in my family would understand and they would all disown me and talk about me. To my surprise, my family was disappointed at first but later was extremely supportive. From the doctors appointments, to making sure that I had everything I needed for the arrival of my daughter, to keeping me sane throughout my whole pregnancy and giving me the emotional support I desperately needed. When you find out you're pregnant SO many different things run through your head; Am I going to keep my baby? Will I be a good mother? What if me and the father don't work out? What if I mess up? Am I even ready to be a mother? What will people say? What am I going to name my baby?; and the list goes on and on. I was the girl who wanted her baby but had so many doubts and negative thoughts about how I'd be treated, how I'd take care of my child and what if me and my childs father didn't work out. Those different thoughts ran through my head literally my WHOLE pregnancy. 

I do plan on having more than one child, but only when the time is right will I make that decision to have more than one person other than myself that I can be responsible for. For those that have been pregnant can relate to the negativity and positivity that comes with being pregnant either single or in a relationship; either way you're the only one who is pregnant and feel as if you're the only one that understands how you feel being pregnant. Being pregnant was NEVER said to be easy and no one ever said that it wouldn't be painful. Although I am Pro-Choice having my daughter was one of the best decisions I've made in life so far. Riley gives me joy, and happiness any time of the day and when I'm upset or happy I can look to her to make my day so much better. 

Why Pro-Choice?

I've just recently become a mother; someone who is responsible for another's life, someone who nurtures, loves and cares for the life she created or took responsibility for. My daughter means the world to me and I wouldn't trade her for any amount of money or object on this earth. I didn't have the best pregnancy however the things that I went through made me the strong person I am today. Some wonder how I made it through my pregnancy? Why her father and I aren't together anymore? How the pregnancy experience was as a whole? More importantly WHY I chose to have my daughter in the first place especially at such a "young age". The only answer I have to the last question is because I am Pro-Choice.

Being Pro-Choice wasn't the easiest to explain to people who knew that I was pregnant or had been pregnant and decided to have my daughter. Theirs no simple explanation as to why I chose to have her other than I couldn't see myself being without her. Although I am young I've been through a lot in the past 9 years of my life but live my life with NO regrets.

I've always been Pro-Choice for as long as I've known about sex, abortion and women's right. In choosing this topic I feel theirs so much to touch basis on and discuss; from abortion, adoption, woman being given the choice to make the proper decision based on their lifestyle, the consequences of making the wrong decision, how to make the proper decision, and so many more what-ifs, what happens when, and how come unanswered questions.

The whole point of me initially choosing this topic was not only for awareness but so that people I know and don't know can a sense of how I feel personally about the topic and why I feel so strongly about it. Our country is based off of being free; free to be who you want to be, free to speak how you want to speak (with some stipulations), and free to express your culture and who you are as an individual. Being Pro-Choice is so controversial and many people don't understand the concept of why someone would be okay with killing another human-being but it has nothing to do with that it has to do with everyone being able to make their own choices with their bodies to fit their lifestyle and the way they want their future to be. Choosing to blog about Pro-Choice may rub many people the wrong way but I am not blogging about this to make someone feel better or worse about their personal views and lifestyles. As stated before this is to bring awareness and shed some light on the situation and to hopefully help someone somewhere in need of making a life altering decision that could either be the best one they've ever made or the worst.

In the words of one of my favorite Gory movie star Jig-Saw from the Saw series "The choice is yours"
Are you Pro-Choice?

Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life

 

 

Chavonne Doyal's first blog of the semester!