As a woman I could never imagine being a victim of rape or molestation growing up let alone being a victim of rape and becoming pregnant by the man who took advantage of me. I often wonder what goes through the minds of men who think it's ever okay to do such a thing or the minds of the women being victimized; from the moment where they
were abducted or put in an unsafe scenario to the sexual act being forced upon them.
Rape tends to be the butt of a lot of social media jokes, movies, and TV shows such as South Park. To me next to slavery rape is the least funny subject of all. I've known people who have been raped or molested and it is never an easy thing to cope with.
The first few things that most people questioning the victim think to say are "What were you doing when this happened", "What were you wearing" and worst of all "What did YOU do to make this individual want to attack" all being very inappropriate and harsh questions.
How can someone ask you what made someone else's sick mind want to do something so hurtful to another instead of asking "Are you okay?" "What can we do to help you cope with this situation?" To think that it's ever and woman or man's fault that they were victimized is ridiculous. Their are cases where women tend to take advantage of the situation and think its okay to put someone else's freedom at risk and lie about being raped or molested such as the Bill Cosby cases. In that case their needs to be proof and lots of investigation; simply because many women are seeking money these days. Things such as rape kits are being used to help in investigations however some woman just like in the Bill Cosby case wait so long to say anything that a rape kit can no longer be used.
Being victimized isn't an easy thing to deal with when everyone makes it seem like its your fault, or that woman can prevent such things from happening; yes it's preventable but most cases are woman living their lives and were caught off guard.
In the beginning of my blog I stated that I couldn't imagine myself being a victim of rape or molestation growing up as a young girl, however; now that I have grown up I've taken part in things such as drinking partying going out late night with my friends and spending the night over friends houses. Being at my friends Jasmine's you would think that one would feel safe and at home; until everyone but you leaves the house to go to the store. While you wait on everyone to get back as you sit on the couch watching TV you hear a buzz at the door; the main apartment door where everyone has to be let in or use a key to get in. That day I heard a few knocks and two buzzes so I looked out the window and unfortunately couldn't see much other than someone wearing what looked like a wind breaker jacket extremely cold that day so I let the stranger in the door without thinking. As I opened the door and their was a gust of cold air. The slight grin, gust of cold air, yank of the door after I attempted to slowly open it and snatch of the lower half of my body by this aggressive unknown man ...and what ever innocence I had left had been ripped away in a matter of 10 minutes.
Being victimized wasn't easy to cope with however I have different strategies to cope with what has happened to me in the past and believe that everyday it gets easier for me to deal with personally and talk about.
