Will women die of unsafe abortions if they become illegal?

I've always wondered if women would still attempt to get abortions if they were illegal. If they would still have as much sex as before when abortions were legal or if they would try to follow the law as much as possible and cut down on sex to cause less babies.

Abstinence is the only sure way of never getting pregnant but the amount of virgins or people who have had sex and stopped are quite low. No one wants to give up sex or have less of it. We'd rather deal with the reprecautions or get abortions and give our kids up for adoption instead. It's not to say that those are both bad options but that either one of these methods wouldn't be needed if people cut down on sex.

I don't believe that women would die of unsafe abortions any more than they die now from abortions performed safely by doctors. From prior readings before this blog I read that even though abortions aren't illegal in this country and many other ones that people are still getting abortions done in unsafe ways such as not at an actual office, or by a doctor that is no longer able or aloud to practice. Theirfore people are getting sick, dying or becoming unfertile in order to keep their secrets hidden or keep a few dollars in their pockets.

I'm not saying that I couldnt see myself never getting an abortion but to get an unsafe abortion because they're made illegal and the circumstances were ones that I couldn't handle than I too would be one of the women getting an unsafe abortion and hoping things turn out ok in the long run.

Not all abortions show side affects or cause immediate deaths. Their may be a case where a woman has an abortion and then misses her check up appointment or gets a "back alley" abortion and then never finds out that she has some parts of her baby still left inside her. Things like left over body parts, abortions done the wrong way, procedures done at an inappropriate time such as when the mother is too far along can cause death of the mother or very serious injury later causing the mother to become infertile or other serious health issues.

Being in this age I can appreciate procedures such as abortion regardless if I would or wouldn't get one. It gives women another option to a sad sorry or a situation that wasn't planned. Its also a good idea simply because some mothers aren't ready to become mothers. Women forced to become mothers can be both positive and negative. Positive because mothers like myself were motivated even more to get and keep my life in order and make sure that myself and my family eventually have a secure future. The negative point of view tends to be that mothers who aren't ready abuse their kids emotionally and physically, become depressed, make decisions for their kids that aren't appropriate, make decisions around their kids that can affect them, and even create an environment for a child to feel unloved and unwanted just because they were born into the wrong family.

Keeping abortions legal is a good thing for most women, will women die of unsafe abortions if they become illegal? Yes quite a few

Could you? [could you, be one of those women who would still get the procedure if need be if it was illegal]

Is it "just a fetus" or is it a baby?

There is constant talk about after someone is said to be pregnant if they're carrying a "fetus" first then a "baby" or has it always been a "baby" and people are just making excuses to deem abortion as a wrong doing. Although I am Pro-Choice and I believe all women should have the choice to keep their baby, abort it or give it up for adoption, I strongly believe that from the moment the doctor or the accurate home pregnancy test says you're pregnant that you actually are pregnant with a "baby". People refer to it scientifically as a fetus but the moment that I found out I was pregnant I didn't go around all excited saying I was having a fetus.

 

I was instantly attached to my daughter and given time her father was as well. People seem to think that calling it a fetus lightens the fact that abortion is abortion and if you choose to have one it's still killing another human being even if it's unable to do all the things a newborn baby or a kicking baby in the womb does. I'm not saying the abortion is wrong because again I'm Pro-choice I'm just not siding with the people that say that it's just a fetus why should I feel bad about getting an abortion.

 

It's not about feeling bad. It's completely the women's choice whether she decides to keep her child or not however getting an abortion comes with some much baggage. From health issues to a heavy conscience. I know many people that have had them-even multiple and I don't talk down on them because they've had one I just correct their thinking when they try to use the excuse of "it's just a fetus".

 

The feeling that I felt being at the doctor seeing my little peanut of a baby on the ultrasound was unforgettable. I’ve never been more attached to a person in my life. To think that I created someone else and that they would love me unconditionally-possibly until teenage years. Then to hear someone to refer to their baby as just a fetus is hurtful. It's as if they think calling it that means it’s close to nothing so they have right to do whatever they want to their child.

 

If you're going to get an abortion I'm fine with that It's the woman’s choice but for you to dibble and dabble in to drugs and drinking and not know for sure that you're having an abortion or even attempt to hurt yourself in hopes of ending the pregnancy has to be one of the most hurtful things a mother could do. Getting an abortion is a medical procedure that can go wrong but in most cases is carefully done by a licensed doctor so for someone to take it upon themselves and hurt THEIR fetus it is not ok and never justifiable. Get the abortion procedure or pill and leave it at that. Trying to end the pregnancy on your own can hurt you and the baby. By doing so as a mother I know I could never forgive myself if I was to harm my baby while pregnant and then a doctor tells me it's unsafe for me to have an abortion and I have to go through the whole pregnancy with the guilt of hurting my own child. In a nut shell....do what's right for YOU, the right way!

Adoption

After having my daughter and being pro-choice I don't know if I could ever be a mother who would choose adoption as a choice instead of keeping their child or getting an abortion. This is not to say that abortion is a horrible thing or having a child at a time that isn't idle is the best choice either. After having my daughter and being attached to her for 10 months and doing all the cute traditional things like a shower and gender reveal it would be extremely hard for me to just let my child go. Things haven't been the easiest for me but I have managed to get through it.

I often imagine what it could feel like as a mother to give her child up or as the child feeling as if something was wrong with them or that parent didn't love them. I met my boyfriend of 2.5 years ago and within the first week of me knowing him he broke down and read a letter than his adoptive dad wrote to me telling me he was adopted. As my boyfriend read the letter to me I could feel the pain that it caused my boyfriend even if he acted as if it didn't bother him on a normal day. But this day was different than most, this day he felt vulnerable and deceived. Not only by his birth parents but also by his adoptive parents-being that it took them years to tell him that he was adopted. Other than when our daughter was born that was the only time I've ever seen my boyfriend cry. I was heartbroken I didn't know what to say or how to feel for the first 2 minutes of silence following after he read the letter. With a lump in my throat I expressed to him that it wasn't his fault and that people make decisions that they regret and decisions that have to be made in order to make things better for themselves no matter how selfish and hurtful it could be.

I've learned in time that adoption isn't an easy topic to talk about let a lone write about simply because everything is cut simple and dry and all put down on documents and either money is exchanged or not.

As a mother of a one year old I think of all the possibilities and outcomes that could have taken place when I was pregnant, before I got pregnant and after I had Riley. If anything happened and my boyfriend had to choose between us two who would he choose, if things get rough are we going to have to give her up for adoption and who would get her if we did?

I've tried my hardest to try to relate to parents that have given up their children or try to reason with the excuses as to why they gave them up but everything in me says that I don't see how anyone could give up their flesh and blood unless they were traumatized sexual or anything to that affect. Adoption is a choice, a choice to put someone before yourself, a choice to be able to say to yourself can you handle what's going to come with parenting. Being pro-choice I feel that everyone has the choice to be able to with their kids or give their child to someone who can take care of them.